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The You & Me

The You & Me is a new way to run your one on one. It is built on emotional intelligence instead of numbers, so your team can tell you what they truly want from their career.

The worksheet downloads instantly as a PDF that you can print or fill in on your screen.

The You and Me worksheet from Destroy the Hairdresser

What is a You & Me?

The You & Me is a tool created by Destroy the Hairdresser that uses emotional intelligence to improve your one on ones.

A You & Me differs from a traditional one on one in one important way, because we never discuss numbers or benchmarks. There are no sales goals, rebooking rates or scorecards. Instead, two people talk honestly about how work feels and where it should lead.

How it works

There are five steps, and they go in this order. You go first, so that your employee sees an honest conversation in action.

1Share your least desired feelings with your employee.
2Share your most desired feelings.
3Discover your employee's least desired feelings.
4Discover your employee's most desired feelings.
5Create a plan to help them build a career that moves them further from their least desired feelings and closer to their most desired.

Set the space

Where and how you hold the conversation matters as much as what you say.

01Outside the salon
0230 minutes and no longer
03Monthly
04About feelings, not benchmarks or numbers

Inside the worksheet

The worksheet is a single page with six parts, and you fill it in together as you talk.

Excellence

What this person is great at right now.

Current phase

Where they are in their career today.

Least desired feelings

What they want to feel less of at work.

Most desired feelings

What they want to feel more of at work.

Challenges

What is getting in the way.

Growth opportunities

The plan that moves them toward what they want.

Before your first one

  • Review the worksheet so you know each part.
  • Practice it with a family member or a friend.
  • Schedule your You & Me's with your team.

Want help putting it into practice?

The worksheet is the tool, but using it well takes practice. A coach from the Destroy the Hairdresser team can help you bring You & Me's into your salon and keep them going every month.

Get the worksheet

The worksheet is free, and we do not ask for an email or an account.