Permission Granted: Feeling Sexy Is Not A Crime

People's negative energies seeping out of them like carbs after a night of unexpected anal? Too much? Shake it off! Finding pieces of hair on your floor resembling shaven kitties and man-scaped gardens? Shake it off! Feeling the tickle down near your pickle? Shake it off! Sex. Fucking. Lovemaking. No-pants dance. Passion. Desire. Moist. Dripping. Rolling. Quivering. Devouring. Intimate. Shaking. Trembles. Relief. There is nothing to be ashamed of for wanting a toe-curling, heart-pounding lay.

I know I do, and I know you do, too. In fact, I function better having regular orgasms. I am a mother of a two year old. My days consist of repeating myself, cleaning up poop, and making sure my mini-me doesn't die from her fearlessness that I hope never dissipates. Stressful to say the least. So when orgasms are happening regularly, let's just say there is much less resting bitch face…much less.

Personally, I feel sexiest when my makeup is on point and my hair is perfection, and I feel powerful when I know that I'm going to be the lady people are envious of. 

If you were to ask people to finish the sentence "I feel sexiest when..," most would reply, in some form or fashion, when they look good, which translates to feeling good. Let's face it: When you look good, you feel good. Our image, especially our hair, plays a major role in how we feel. I believe it was Coco Chanel who said,

“A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life.”

Yes, I know you understand what I am saying but understanding isn’t enough anymore. The problem is apathy. We lack the desire to really make a change in our life, let alone appearance. Do you know who Sasha Fierce is or why she exists? She is an alter ego Beyonce created to give herself permisson to be, feel, and act sexy. Can you "roar" with Katy? Katy is getting loud about her confidence, her power…her sexiness. Go ahead, make a change. A small one. Change your hair, change your makeup, change your clothes…change the conversation. You will be overwhelmed with positive waves of energy that will come rushing in and out…and back in and slowly back out until you burst with joy! You get the idea, but maybe those waves would put you in sync with a new career. Maybe bounce off new friends. Possibly inspire confidence in a family member. Or what if they translated into the change your sex life is needing, something straight out of Fifty Shades. Am I right? Or am I right? 

This is about more than looks. If you aren't aware that one must change in order to continue growing, you are now, and have no more excuses to stay the same. Go and grow. Don't become stagnant in the waters of your journey. Like the saying goes, "Smooth waters don't make for a skilled sailor," and, let’s face it, a skilled sailor is really what you're after. There is nothing wrong with helping yourself feel good--however and with whatever that may be.